Hi Carol
I first met Richard when I was 20 he was 30
we went out for 5 years before he asked me to marry him I said (well ok I felt sorry for him as no-one else would have him) when we told my family I was told we would never last and was given 6 months for our marrage to be over
I was the first girl he ever took home to met his parents
I was 26 when I dragged him down the aisle (he has never forgiven me)
I am 50 in November we are still as much in love now as we were then
my family realised what kind of a person Richard really was
I feel the mold was broken when Richard was born
and I bet every-one on the forum feel the same with there partners
it is so lovely you feel like this with Pete as I do with Richard
take care
Mary L

I have been married to my Ken for 28 years next week. I knew very soon after meeting him I wanted to marry him. He is a truly lovely man and I love him more and more as time goes by. We do lots together and our family is so important to both of us. We go out regularly for meals and have lots of time together and have had some amazing holidays. I tell him often how much he means to me and I know just how much he loves me too. It's true life is too short and it is so important to tell one another how special they are. I feel we are even closer now than we were 28 years ago and I never thought that possible.
Lorna x

Good one Annie! lol

I told Richard
I thought sex was what posh people there coal into
Mary L

Mandy and I have been together for a year now and in May I moved in with her. I can say with hand on heart that this has been the happiest year in my life.

Of course coming to accept that RA is a part of our life did take some coming to terms with but you have to learn to adapt and accept.

There are obviously things that we want to do but can't physically do (what with her RA and me with OA in both knees). We would love to walk along a deserted beach or go on guided tours around some NT properties but neither of us can do that.

We are having our first holiday together starting tonight. We are travelling through England, Scotland and Wales. Starting with a long overnight drive from Swindon to Inverness. After five nights in Inverness we are driving down to the Lake District for two nights before spending Friday and Saturday (Saturday being Mandy's birthday) in a 5 Star Hotel in Glos (Tortworth Court). Sunday we nip down the M4 to The Gower for three nights and then home.

We both appreciate that there will be numerous tea and pee stops on the way so time is unimportant.

It's an adventure that neither of us thought possible a year ago.

hi


I must have the shortest marrage between us I married my Phil in 2003 my second marrage and his first we do have our shouts at each other but since i have had RA our life have changed a lot but all he does is love me and cubble me when i cry but he is my Rock
I just wish i could do more for him like he does for me

take care all you lovely couples because i know what the other side is

love everyday and never sleep on a argument

Love to you all

Audrey.

Hi Jenny,

Great too hear from you again, but not in such sad circumstances!
So sorry to hear that your husband has left.
Keep posting so we can help to support you.

Love and hugs, Doreen xx

If it's any consolation Jenny, my sister split with her husband after 32 years and she is now with a lovely man, a bit younger than her but they are so right for each other.
You never know what is round the corner.
How is your RA?

Doreen xx

Dear Jenny,
What a terrible time you have been having!
I hope that you are managing O.K.
I think that R.A has made me much more dependent
on my partner than I was before.
It is a feeling that I don't like much at all.
We have been seeing each other for 17 years this
month.
I was diagnosed aged 37 or 38 and we had only been
together for 11 months at that time.
I am glad that he is still in my life but he has allways
been anti marriage (to anyone) and now that I am 53
I would really love to get married to him.
(I was married twice years ago, at 17 and 23 and divorced.)
I was too young to be married back then.
I have three grown-up children in their 30's and none of them
are married or even living with anyone!
Also a 9 year old Grandaughter.
So I know that I am lucky really to have had them.
I think that for a healthy person to have their husband leave is
dreadful, but for a person with R.A it must be very scary indeed.
Please remember that we are all here to chat to and keep posting
to let us know how you are getting on.
I found your post very interesting because it highlights the fact
that not everyone with R.A has a "perfect" partner and it may help others
who may go through what you are going through in the future.
I am thinking of you,
wishing that good things will come your way,
Fiona

I am having pains in my shoulders and hands and have been for a while. They reduced my hydroxychorequine to just 1 table per day as i had been on them since 2006.
I have an appointment to see them in feb so will wait to see what happens then.

The only thing about me meeting anyone is i don't go out anywhere, unless its to asda LOL.

I started zumba classes a few months ago but had to stop coz of the bloomin pains in my shoulders. I intend to start back once am feeling ok ( only women go to zumba classes so i might need to start some masculine activities to meet someone hahahahaha).

Jenny
xxxx